conversations: minimizing our pain

I had a really interesting coversation with a friend yesterday. We talked about life experiances and how sometimes people, or ourselves even minimize the pain we endure. Some maybe feel that their pain is worse somehow, for example say someone in their life died and another got divorced, well some may say that the pain of losing someone to death is worse, than losing someone to divorce because they can still see the other person. I do not agree with this though. I feel like pain is pain and we all endure differently. Some of us are easily able to carry on with our lives after death, but after divorce people are sometimes paralyzed their whole lives or vise versa. Its not the incident, its the way we feel. I think the important thing to remember is we all feel differently and we must love and accept the different degrees of pain, lets not judge people for being sad, when we think we should feel worse, lets try not to think that way at all.